Love vs. Career: the never-ending conundrum of life. When we have one, we seek the other; when we have neither, we feel empty, but can we ever really have both? After all, what fun is life if you have no one to share it with? And what is the point of life without purpose and passion?
It seems as though we all hit that crossroads in life, usually in our twenties. As a twenty four year old woman myself, I know I have had to make the decision before, as has my boyfriend. Of course, we discuss options, compromise, and make our own decisions, but isn’t there always the risk of resentment? I look at my role models and see that it is possible to have both, but one always has to come before the other. We must make a sacrifice somewhere in order to have it all.
My boyfriend and I have both made sacrifices after graduating from college. Right now, he is working a dead end job in an uneventful town in Florida while I stay at home and freelance for various magazines. We’d both love to pursue our careers, but I see myself in New York City, a place my significant other doesn’t particularly gravitate towards. I can’t keep putting my dreams on hold, but then again, it is scary to imagine a life all on my own.
I have friends who have moved across the country (and left jobs they loved) to be with their man; I have friends who have moved across the country to start over after a break up, and friends who accepted job offers across the country despite their current relationship. They all ended up longing for what they left behind, or a version of that at least.
So how do we decide which is more important? Should we ask the obvious “where do you see yourself in five years?” Make a list of pros and cons? Sadly, I don’t think it’s that simple. I think the only way to know for sure is to live and learn. Maybe that’s why this question never gets answered.
Have you ever had to make this tough decision? Any insight on how a girl can have it all?